It doesn't matter what we want, once we get it, then we want something else
When I try to understand a person's motives, I play a little game. I assume the worst. What's the worst reason they could possibly have for saying what they say and doing what they do?
Chaos is a ladder, many who try to climb it fail, never get to try again. The fall breaks them. And some are given a chance to climb, but they refuse
Sometimes the best way to baffle them is to make moves that have no purpose, or even seem to work against you. Remember that, Sansa, when you come to play the game. The only game, the Game of Thrones